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This page explains the Jewish attitudes towards non-Jews. to some sources, the Christian worship of Jesus does not constitute idolatry for non-Jews. to refer to a non-Jewish woman who is dating or married to a Jewish man, which should . 'Mother,' I said quietly, 'remember the greatest Man who ever lived was a Jew – Jesus. And remember that, although I love the teachings of Jesus, I belong to no . Almost any intelligent Gentile will admit that our attitude toward the Jews has. I studied the challenges of dating, cohabiting and married Jewish-Gentile couples. One challenge for Jewish partners was the name and person of Jesus .
The word "goy" means " nation ," and refers to the fact that goyim are members of other nations, that is, nations other than the Children of Israel. There is nothing inherently insulting about the word "goy. Because Jews have had so many bad experiences with anti-Semitic non-Jews over the centuries, the term "goy" has taken on some negative connotations, but in general the term is no more insulting than the word "gentile.
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I gather that these words are derived from the Hebrew root Shin-Qof-Tzadei, meaning loathsome or abomination. The word shiksa is most commonly used to refer to a non-Jewish woman who is dating or married to a Jewish man, which should give some indication of how strongly Jews are opposed to the idea of intermarriage. The term shkutz is most commonly used to refer to an anti-Semitic man. Both terms can be used in a less serious, more joking way, but in general they should be used with caution.
If you are offended to hear that Jewish culture has a negative term for non-Jews, I would recommend that you stop and think about the many negative terms and stereotypes that your culture has for Jews. Interfaith Marriages I once received a message from a man who told me that many Jews do not like gentiles. He knew this because his Jewish girlfriend's friends and parents disapproved of him.
I explained that these people did not disapprove of him because he was Christian; they disapproved of him because he was a Christian dating a Jew, which is another issue altogether. Traditional Judaism does not permit interfaith marriages.
The Torah states that the children of such marriages would be lost to Judaism Deut. The National Jewish Population Survey found that only a third of interfaith couples raise their children Jewish, despite increasing efforts in the Reform and Conservative communities to welcome interfaith couples.
This may reflect the fact that Jews who intermarry are not deeply committed to their religion in the first place: Certainly, the statistics show that intermarried Jews are overwhelmingly less likely to be involved in Jewish activities: These statistics and more are sufficiently alarming to be a matter of great concern to the Jewish community.
And the rate of intermarriage has grown dramatically in recent years: One Orthodox Jew I know went so far as to state that intermarriage is accomplishing what Hitler could not: That is an extreme view, but it vividly illustrates how seriously many Jews take the issue of intermarriage. The more liberal branches of Judaism have tried to embrace intermarried couples, hoping to slow the hemorrhaging from our community, but it is questionable how effective this has been in stemming the tide, given the statistics that intermarried couples are unlikely to have any Jewish involvement or to raise their children Jewish.
They note that if the non-Jewish spouse truly shares the same values as the Jewish spouse, then the non-Jew is welcome to convert to Judaism, and if the non-Jew does not share the same values, then the couple should not be marrying in the first place.
If you are considering interfaith dating or marriage, consider this: Many people who are considering interfaith marriage or dating casually dismiss any objections as prejudice, but there are some practical matters you should consider. And before you casually dismiss this as ivory tower advice from a Jewish ghetto, let me point out that my father, my mother and my brother are all intermarried, as well as several of my cousins.
The Stereotypes Why are you not seeking out a Jewish partner? If you ask many Jews why they don't want to date other Jews, you will hear the ugliest list of antisemitic stereotypes this side of Nazi propaganda. They will tell you that Jewish men are cheap, neurotic mamma's boys, not handsome and macho like gentile men.
They will tell you that Jewish women are frigid, materialistic and plain, not fun and sexy like gentile women. Interestingly, the stereotypes you hear from gentiles seeking Jews are quite different: In fact, there are quite a lot of gentiles who have registered for JDatea Jewish dating network, because they specifically want to date and marry a Jew. If you think the negative stereotypes don't fit you, what makes you think they fit Jews of the opposite sex?
The Marriage Where will you get married, who will perform the ceremony and how will it be performed? Most movements of Judaism don't allow interfaith marriages to be performed in their synagogues, nor do they allow their rabbis to perform interfaith marriages, and before you casually dismiss this as bigotry, let's remember: You're asking them to put a religious stamp of approval on an act that has nothing to do with their religion.
You might as well ask the rabbi to say "amen" to a blessing over a ham and cheese sandwich. But now that you know you may have to be married in a church: How will your relatives feel when they are told, "in Jesus' name, let us say 'Amen'," as happened at an interfaith marriage in my family?
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The Holidays What will you do when Christmas and Chanukkah overlap? When Easter and Pesach overlap? Whose holiday will you celebrate? Will your gentile husband veto the annual Chanukkah visit to your parents because Christmas is more important, as happened to an intermarried friend of mine?
Will your gentile spouse be willing to sit through the lengthy seder ritual at your parents' house, or the lengthy High Holiday services? The Children How will the children be raised? The Jewish grandparents want a brisand the gentile grandparents insist on baptism.
The Catholic grandparents want the child to learn catechism while the Jewish grandparents are looking forward to the bar mitzvah.
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Many interfaith couples think they are being oh-so-enlightened by raising the children with both faiths and letting them choose. The Jewish Sages were familiar with the prophecies of the prophets, researched them and perused every verse, wrote commentaries based on exegesis and the literal meaning, but never arrived at the bizarre conclusions which Christians exposited from the Bible. It seems that Messianic Jews see what they want to see.
Messianic Jews repeatedly claim that Jewish sages distorted the name "Yeshu" from the original "Yeshua". This claim is a historical lie. Christian writings of the New Testament were transferred over two thousand years in Greek and English, and they were translated to Hebrew only recently.
Only then did the translators choose the name "Yeshua" instead of "Yeshu" the latter notorious among Hebrew-speaking Jews. Catholic and Protestant Christians never called Jesus "Yeshua" in their language.
Even Talmudic Hebrew has no special meaning for this name, and we see that the Talmud switches many times between the name "Yeshua" and the name "Yeshu", which originally was an alternate version of the name "Joshua" Yoshua in Hebrew see Nehemiah 8: In fact, when the Talmud wanted to refer to the Yeshu who appears in the New Testament, they call him "Yeshu the Nazarene", because the name "Yeshu" alone was a well known Aramaic-Hebrew name.
Maimonides among the greatest Jewish legal decisors of all times mentions Jesus years ago Laws of Kings The only ones who are fabricating and concealing the truth are Jews for Jesus. According to all the prophecies of the Bible, the messiah has not yet come All the prophets of the Bible, including even the prophets cited by the Messianic Jews, claim that when the messiah comes, the world will fundamentally change.
There is no prophet in the Bible that talks about the messiah and does not predict significant changes taking place in the world — for instance, a wolf will dwell together with the lamb, people will not fight anymore, everyone will acknowledge G-d, there will be no more horrible deaths, there will be a revival of the dead and especially the Jewish people will experience salvation and well-being. Because these prophecies have not yet been fulfilled, the Jewish people knew that the messiah had not come yet, and we still continue to await his arrival.
The Jews had been waiting more than a thousand years for the messiah to bring salvation to the Jewish people and redemption to the entire world, and it was obvious that the crucified man who disappeared as soon as he came was not the one.
This point is the major contradiction in the prophets to Christian faith in Jesus. The prophets all described messiah as bringing redemption and salvation to the entire world, while Christianity has brought murder and misery to the Jewish people and caused many wars in the world. The prophet Jeremiah predicts that the messiah will be a king who will reign over all of Israel and execute righteousness and justice throughout the country Isaiah prophesied that when the redemption comes The whole concept behind the name "messiah" is that the person is a king of Israel he was anointed to the monarchyhe restored the Davidic Kingdom, and renewed our days as of old.
This belief is built on circular reasoning. Maimonides summed it up with common sense that is apparent to all Jews Laws of Kings, Chapter He will once again gather you from all the nations, where the L-rd, your G-d, had dispersed you. Even if your exiles are at the end of the heavens, the L-rd, your G-d, will gather you from there, and He will take you from there.
Jesus the Nazarene imagined himself to be the Messiah, and he was killed by the court — as had been prophesied by Daniel, it is says, "and the sons of the renegades of your people will exalt themselves to bring about the vision but they will fail. Can there be a greater obstacle then the fact that all the prophets stated that the Messiah will redeem Israel and be their savior, and will gather their dispersed and strengthen their fulfillment of Torah; while Jesus caused numerous Jews to die by the sword, scattered their remnant and humiliated them, exchanged the Torah [for another religion], and deceived most of the world to serve a god who is not G-d.
In contrast, if you ask a Christian who wrote the holy scriptures of Christianity, the "New Testament," he will mention the names of four people who lived nearly a century after the death of Jesus. His words were transmitted orally and written by people who were not prophets, and some of them had never even seen him. And who are these four people?
No one knows, even the Christian Church does not know, because they are mentioned only by their name, without their lineage or the dates when they lived. Even worse, the New Testament itself says that Jesus had only ten students In other words, Christianity has no solid historical claim, and no reliable historical record. The Christian writings lack any historical weight. Since the New Testament was written many years after Jesus' death, the writers had already read the books of the prophets in the Bible and tried to coordinate the prophecies with Jesus.
In other words, if the prophet Isaiah would have written that the messiah would have blue eyes, then the writers of the New Testament would have described Jesus as having blue eyes. When the Torah was given to the entire Jewish, they had just witnessed the mighty events of the Exodus and the Revelation on Mount Sinai, and were fulfilling commandments and celebrating holidays they had just experienced. But with the New Testament, there was not one people who acknowledged and remembered the events related in it, and it was all based on the writings of four unknown men who wrote a story.
It is impossible to verify or refute a legend. And that is the fundamental difference between history and a story. History is transmitted by millions who were witnesses to the event, while a story is transmitted by individuals who can tell you whatever they want. When the New Testament says that Jesus walked on the water, no nation admits to have witnessed it. When the New Testament says that Jesus rose from the grave, no nation ever verified that they saw it. Therefore, the New Testament does not possess historic validity.
It is a simple story without an address, and it is as believable as any book that one may find in the drawer. Is it believable that one day He selects the Jewish people, and another day the Christian faith or the Muslim Koran? For some reason, Christians and Muslims would have us believe that G-d changes his mind, and is capable of suddenly choosing a new prophet who contradicts prophecies that He had given earlier. However, the Torah has already told us Deuteronomy 7: Not because you are more numerous than any people did the L-rd delight in you and choose you, for you are fewer than of all peoples.
Behold, you are [about to] lie with your forefathers, and this nation will rise up and stray after the deities of the nations of the land, into which they are coming. I will remember for them the covenant [made with] the ancestors, whom I took out from the land of Egypt before the eyes of the nations, to be a G-d to them.
I am the L-rd. These are the statutes, the ordinances, and the laws that the L-rd gave between Himself and the children of Israel on Mount Sinai, by the hand of Moses.
And the L-rd, your G-d, will bring you to the land which your forefathers possessed, and you [too] will take possession of it, and He will do good to you, and He will make you more numerous than your forefathers. And the L-rd, your G-d, will circumcise your heart and the heart of your offspring, [so that you may] love the L-rd your G-d with all your heart and with all your soul, for the sake of your life.
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And the L-rd, your G-d, will place all these curses upon your enemies and upon your adversaries, who pursued you. And you will return and listen to the voice of the L-rd, and fulfill all His commandments, which I command you this day.
And the L-rd, your G-d, will make you abundant for good in all the work of your hands, in the fruit of your womb, in the fruit of your livestock, and in the fruit of your soil.
For the L-rd will once again rejoice over you for good, as He rejoiced over your forefathers, when you obey the L-rd, your G-d, to observe His commandments and His statutes written in this Torah scroll, [and] when you return to the L-rd, your G-d, with all your heart and with all your soul.
The Torah also seems to have predicted the destruction of Christianity. Deuteronomy contains a prophecy of the destruction that will befall the Jewish people, and that the Gentiles would claim that G-d had forsaken them, a claim that has been stated by the Christians from their earliest days.
After predicting this, the Torah writes Deuteronomy And all the nations will say, Why did the L-rd do this to the land? What [is the reason] for this great fury?
Then they will say, It is because they abandoned the covenant of the L-rd, G-d of their fathers, [the covenant] which He made with them when He took them out of the land of Egypt. But the Torah tells the Jewish people not to worry because Deut. And they shall be My people, and I will be their G-d. And I will give them one accord and one way to fear Me all the time, so that it be good for them and for their children after them.
And I will form with them an everlasting covenant, that I will not turn away from them to do them good, and I will place My fear in their heart, so they will not turn away from Me.
And I will rejoice over them to do good to them, and I will plant them in this land truly with all My heart and with all My soul. I have still not found a Christian who managed to explain away these prophecies which were explicitly written in the Torah, and I do not know how they can remain a Christian or "Messianic Jew" after reading them.
This argument has no less merit than the divine prophecies mentioned in the previous section, since the Creator Himself commanded the Jewish people to listen in every generation to their judges, and not to turn aside from their words. After G-d revealed Himself to Moses at the burning bush, the first ones Moses approached were the elders of Israel, who led the people. G-d never intended that people will interpret prophecy by themselves, or that the common people would interpret their religious beliefs and practices as they see fit.
To explain the Torah, G-d appointed sages in each generation to guide the people in the right way to fulfill the commandments and have correct faith. The Torah states this explicitly Numbers Prepare for yourselves wise and understanding men, known among your tribes, and I will make them heads over you. In Deuteronomy, the Jewish people are ordered to do whatever the sages in every generation teach them And you shall do according to the word they tell you, from the place the L-rd will choose, and you shall do according to all they instruct you.
According to the law they instruct you and according to the judgment they say to you, you shall do; you shall not divert from the word they tell you, either right or left! It is not in heaven, that you should say, "Who will go up to heaven for us and fetch it for us, to tell [it] to us, so that we can fulfill it? The Sages of Israel were the ones who informed the Israelites in Egypt that Moses was indeed a true prophet of G-d, and they instructed us to believe in all the prophets of the Old Testament.
If it were not for the sages, we would not know who is a false prophet and who is a true prophet, since we do not have the ability to read the Bible and decide alone which prophets spoke with G-d. The sages imparted to us who are the true prophets of the Bible, and they transmitted down to us their books and their interpretations from generation to generation.
Without the sages teaching us Torah, we would not have any Torah today. The New Testament itself claims that Jesus accepted the authority of the Sanhedrin, the same Sanhedrin that rejected him as a false prophet. The obvious question is: After all, G-d Himself ordered the Jews to listen to the Jewish sages in every generation, and G-d knows all generations in advance. I remember at least one Messianic Jew who abandoned his Christian faith, after he was asked how he allows himself to interpret and understand prophecy and prophets based on his own understanding, after the Torah specifically commanded "you shall observe to do according to all they [the sages] instruct you.
I told a Messianic Jew who eventually repented: And since G-d told Jews to listen to the sages, once the sages repudiated Jesus, Jews had to reject Jesus without further questions. The only ones who chose to believe in Jesus were those who rejected the sages and thought they were smarter than the Creator Who gave the Torah. Why Jews believe in the Torah, and reject other religions Messianic Jews often get confused when they are asked why, in their view, do they believe at all in the Torah what they call the "Old Testament".
Christians are so used to blind faith in the New Testament, that they have no idea of the historical foundations on which Jewish belief is based — the Torah written down by Moses which he heard from G-d.
As we have shown, the Christian Scriptures were written by four unknown people from nowhere, and as such, lack historical authentication. The Messianic Jew quotes from the Book of Jeremiah and Isaiah and the Book of Daniel, without first asking why he should even believe all these prophets, or even believe everything that is written in the Torah?
Our faith in the Torah, and consequently, the books of the prophets who spoke in the name of the Torah, is historically verifiable. In the Book of Deuteronomy Chapter 4: Did ever a people hear G-d's voice speaking out of the midst of the fire as you have heard, and live?!
Or has any god performed miracles to come and take for himself a nation from the midst of a[nother] nation, with trials, with signs, and with wonders, and with war and a strong hand, and with an outstretched arm and with great awesome deeds, as all that the L-rd your G-d did for you in Egypt before your eyes?! You were shown this, in order to know that the L-rd He is G-d; there is none else besides Him. G-d demonstrated to the Jewish people that He was the Creator and not a man. Maimonides wrote in his famous Letter to Yemen: A single nation heard G-d speak, and saw His glory with their own eyes.Dating & Marriage Advice : Jewish Dating
The purpose of all this was to confirm us in our faith so that nothing can change it G-d revealed Himself to you in order to give you strength to withstand all future trials.
Therefore, any one who will arise and say that he is a messenger from G-d to give a Torah to the people, we respond to him: Any Torah from G-d that will not be given in a mass revelation, cannot be divine.
Judaism is based on a revelation to the entire people, while Christianity is based on the claim of an individual. G-d made an eternal covenant with the children of Israel, for all generations. The Christians believe that G-d reneged on the covenant, without announcing another revelation to millions of witnesses to cancel the covenant with Israel.